Redmond Reams, Ph.D., provides psychotherapy for preschoolers, school-age children, teenagers, and their families who deal with attachment issues, anxiety, depression, aggression, demandingness, past trauma, adoption complications, loss, emotional regulation difficulties, separation or divorce, and other matters. Depending on your needs, Dr. Reams may provide therapy for the child, the parent and child, or the whole family. Further, he works with a variety of family constellations, such as two-parent (heterosexual or homosexual), single-parent, kinship, and foster and adoptive families.
For effective family therapy, your entire family must feel Dr. Reams cares about, understands, and values all of your family members’ points of view—even when you disagree with each other. Then, he works with each of you to improve communication, understand the emotional basis of each other’s actions, and reach agreements on how to interact and move forward on other mutually decided goals.
Dr. Reams provides parent-child therapy by focusing on parents’ relationship with their child based on their interaction—not on changing their character. Through this approach, parents may learn specific techniques to use with the child that promote attachment, repair past hurt, or shift negative feelings to positive. Often, he meets with you one-on-one to plan strategy, exchange information, and practice interactions.
Individual Therapy With Children
Dr. Reams provides child therapy one-on-one while regularly meeting with parents. During these parent meetings, you discuss the concerns at-hand and how therapy can address them—to assure you properly apply the therapy to meet everyone’s needs. Dr. Reams will also continually ask about your home environment, answer questions, and measure progress with you. All the while, he maintains every child’s sense of privacy.
For therapy with preschooler and school-age children, Dr. Reams mixes talk with play. During play, children easily and fully express their ongoing concerns—conscious and unconscious. Using only words to express thoughts, feelings, and motivations is an emerging skill for children and thus, if relied on solely, would limit therapy’s effectiveness.
Therapy with Children of Separation/Divorce
When working individually with children of separated or divorced parents, Dr. Reams first clarifies his role as a therapist who can help the child through reactions to the split. This approach lets the child know that he is not on either parent’s “side.”
Dr. Reams does not evaluate parenting quality or recommend custody. While he can gladly help you improve parenting skills, he does not address one parent’s concerns about the other parent. As stated in this policy on working with families of separation and divorce, parents should not subpoena Dr. Reams or his records into court—as this action would damage therapy.